The Basics:
There was a time not too long ago when if you wanted to talk to someone you had to go see them or call them on the home telephone. From cordless phones, to pagers and then to cell phones, our methods of communication have become less personal and more technological. Within the last 10 years the Internet has become the fastest growing form of communication, with social networking sites becoming the top rated sites on the Internet. Even these are changing quickly as the hot Black Planet and MySpace of 5 years ago have given way to the new frontrunners Facebook and Twitter. Today, so many people use the Internet to connect with each other that it seems very natural for people to use the Web to meet single people. Online dating sites have been around for awhile now but today these sites have become a primary vehicle for people to meet pen pals, dates or potential mates.

With this backdrop in mind, what about online dating for the black man? Should black men use these online dating sites or is this phenomenon reserved for others. Not to be too biased but as a black man I must say many of us have too much game to give way to a computer to find us a woman (or at least we think so). Whatever your opinion is on the validity or usefulness of online dating sites for black men the numbers say that men and women are flocking to online dating sites in droves.

According to 1 out of 5 relationships start from an online dating service encounter. has over 5 million black singles. If those 5 million black singles on eHarmony are all black women then that would be reason enough alone to join! Of course this is not the case as both single black men and single black women are flocking to eHarmony and other online dating sites for the same reasons everyone else is – it is simply a sign of the times.

So now that we can agree that online dating sites are a viable dating channel for single black men we now need to decide which ones to use. There are hundreds of dating sites on the Internet and even though they all have the same basic format there are differences between them. The following is a list of top 10 online dating sites. We use the term “top 10” very loosely as everybody has their own dating criteria and measurement for what makes a good site. Where the information was available we have presented the number of black singles on each site.

The remaining lists in this article focus on specialized, or niche online dating sites. If you are looking to focus specifically on single black women check out the list of top 5 black online dating sites. If you want to date online but don’t want to pay (you’re probably already in trouble) check out the list of top 10 free online dating sites. The final 2 online dating sites lists are for interracial dating and, for the brothers who want to go skip the meal and go straight to the dessert, adult online dating sites.

Top 10 Online Dating Websites

1. is probably the most recognized online dating service and has over a database of over 15 million members, with 2.8 million active users. Match allows you to run very customized searches based on your dating criteria, post up to 25 photos and check who has reviewed your profile. According to Match, each year approximately 400,000 people find love through their site. Match has 3 million black singles in their database and the fee is $18/month with a 6 mo membership.

By Haadi